When discussing human communications, we view many ways to positively express oneself through verbal messages such as entertainment, education, and flirting. On the other hand, it seems there is a much larger amount of negative verbal communication presented to us in our everyday lives. For instance, sexism, racism and disconfirmation, just to name a few. Sexism is a term more widely looked at in today’s world due to the fact that we have more women in high paying roles and being on top of what used to be a mans world. Sexism is language that puts down someone because of his or gender (DeVito, 101). Sexism can also be correlated with feminism. Feminism is about seeing women as victims in society. I have chosen an anti-feminist approach in the subject of feminism only because, being in the military, I was always put on an equal level with men and I do not feel it necessary to look at females as being oppressed and use it as an advantage to move ahead in life.
Feminism is a point of view taken mostly by women who see the gender systems currently in operation as structured by a binary opposition, in which one term, masculine, is always privileged over the other term, feminine (Jackson, 39). Feminist all claim that we live in a patriarchal society; a society of men, ruled by and for men (Jackson, 45). In my experience in life, most men actually highly esteem women and generally treat them with great honor. In the 21st century women do not earn less income than men, moreover, some women earn much more than many men. Most women earn about the same wages as men and if men earn more it is usually explained by greater qualifications, longer hours, and more risk. Which, if women were willing to do, could achieve the same wages and respect that men have attained, in feminist eyes.
I believe women should have equality before the law and equal pay for equal work. With this said, there is another dispute against the positive views of feminism. It seems that many men who initially were sympathetic or never took interest in feminism get married and three to four years later their wives leave them, take the kids and more than half the wealth. Suddenly they realize that the court system seems to treat them unfairly on the basis of sex (Jackson, 67).
While researching this topic in my workplace, a limited number of people (both men and women) started to contemplate that women are by no means treated unfairly. Looked at broadly, women seem to be improving their representation in politics, education, employment, etc (Jackson, 67). In my opinion, women do have more power both in the private and earning much more in public life. In the privacy of the home, women usually run the show and men are virtual visitors. In public life, women have gained increasing formal recognition in all parts of the man’s workplace such as becoming doctors, lawyers, and politicians.
In conclusion, when looking at feminism in regards to negative nonverbal communication, you can understand the many reasons why identifying the characteristics of language and their implications is important in every day human communication. We must all learn to put barriers and obstacles aside to better communicate without distraction.
stevi jackson (1993) Women studies: Essential Readings, New york, New york University Press.
Joseph DeVito (1999) Essentials of Human communication. New York, Addison Weslry Longman, Inc.
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